Another common and often unsettling dream involves dreaming of having sex with someone you do not like in the waking world. This dream is quite common and once more does not signify an attraction to this person. What this dream does typically signify, however, is a desire to have one or more qualities you associate with this person or feel that they possess. It can also signify that this person has one or more qualities you desire in a partner or lover. These are typically things such as an outgoing personality, the ability to be direct or stand up for oneself, or the ability to win people over with ease.

Many people often dream about making love to people of the opposite gender than the one they prefer in real life. This typically represents a desire to have or feel the qualities associated with that gender. Dreaming of being with a woman if you are attracted to men can indicate a desire for tenderness or a need for sensitivity from your partner. Likewise, dreaming of being with a man when you are attracted to women can indicate wanting your partner to take charge or be more assertive. While this does not fit in with the feminist standpoint, the subconscious once more speaks in metaphor, and does not always live up to the waking world’s standards of political correctness. Dreams of having sex with people of the wrong gender can also indicate feelings of unease or an inability to stand on one’s own or make one’s own decisions when around the parent of that gender. For example, dreaming of being with a woman for a straight woman or gay man can indicate a need for approval from one’s mother. This is less common than other interpretations, but is common enough to warrant mentioning. .

Other typical dreams involve having sex with coworkers or bosses. Dreaming of having sex with a coworker can indicate a desire to be more involved with work or to have closer business relationships. Dreaming of having sex with one’s boss on the other hand often indicates loyalty to one’s job. It can also indicate an attraction to authority. It is not uncommon at all for people to like having clear goals and someone telling them what is expected of them in a work environment. The last thing this can indicate is a feeling of authority within yourself that you are pleased with, a sense of authority over your boss or a desire to obtain or surpass his status.

The last dream we will discuss is dreams in which you find yourself having sex with a relative. This is perhaps the most disturbing of the sexual dreams for most people. As you can likely gather from the interpretations of similar dreams above, this dream is in no way significant of incestual feelings.